Dating can be overwhelming at any time in your life. Putting yourself out there to meet new people is a bold move, and it’s something that can seem daunting to even the most confident amongst us. Once you’re over 40 though, that in itself can bring a whole load of challenges with it.
When I found myself back in the dating game a little later in life, I had to quickly get to grips with how things worked, and the best approach to get the kind of outcomes that I was really hoping for. Thankfully, it worked for me! Here’s my best advice for dating after 40…
Don’t be scared to get online
When I was growing up, you met potential partners in the workplace, or through a friend on a Friday night when you went down to your local pub. I’m pleased to say that things have changed significantly since those days! If you really want to meet someone, it’s never been easier or more straightforward. You can sign up for sites like Single and Mature, and connect with people who have similar interests, hopes, and dreams.
Be upfront about your life
If you spend a significant amount of time caring for your children or ageing relatives, don’t feel like you have to keep this a secret. When you get a little older, it’s to be expected that you’re going to have extra responsibilities. This only creates problems if you’re not open and honest about it from the beginning. If someone isn’t ready, willing, and able to accept you exactly as you are, then they’re not the right person for you.
Dating isn’t something that you can take too seriously. You need to accept that you’ll probably connect with some people who you just aren’t compatible with. You might end up going on dates with people and have no connection. It can be disappointing, but it’s important to maintain a positive outlook and simply take each day as it comes. Keep an open mind, and make it your mission to simply enjoy the journey, whatever it might throw at you. As long as you take safety precautions, and only meet people in public places, then there’s really nothing for you to be concerned about.
Just bite the bullet
If you’re reading this, then I dare bet that you’ve been thinking about mature dating for quite some time. You might keep thinking that you’ll give it a go, but then end up convincing yourself that it’s a really bad idea. At the end of the day though, you really don’t have anything to lose.
If you’re feeling a little nervous about things, then understand that it’s completely normal. Signing up for a dating site may seem like a big step, but you can take things as quickly or as slowly as you like.
If you do decide that it’s time for you to get back in the dating game, then be sure to come back and leave a comment to let me know how you get on!